I was thinking about all of our experiences. I know you have some different style in your life as teenagers. The way our parents discipline us in whatever they teach us in our growing up. Maybe punish? Not punish? Try get us to follow in their footsteps? Many reasons we had in our teenager years.
I read one of articles. I can see that girl went wild and her parents tried to discipline the right way. They do not want to punish her for being wild or active teenager. If she was punishing by them then she won’t be here. She would be like less focus or could be selfish to rejected. The way I read, she is successful teenager and learning a lot of world views. Her parents were glad that she saw her own eyes after the filming of teenager’s life. She realized herself.
Same thing about a girl growing up into the world without social media in 80s. She got to see her own film and realized about herself been through. She was glad that her kids get good influence by her because she does not want them alike her when teenager year.
I looked back into my teenager years. Pretty tough. Why? I have a hard head mother and soft-hearted father. Mother is my best friend; we always chat and of course argue daily. If I get upset and ran into father to comfortable me. I have no brother or sister to depend on, so they are my family.
When my aunt was teenager and took me to movie with her friends or dating night. Yes, date night! I could remember her took me to the park and her boyfriend was there. I watched them and passion. OMG! I only 6 years old! Therefore, that is when I become 17 like my aunt was. I did not take anyone to the park! LOL! I had boyfriend and we did everything that is not normal. You know how teenagers tend very curious about LOVE and PASSION. There you go. Why “not normal”……too embarrassed to say because we are under the God’s house! Oops!
Tough year? Yeah, mother is hard head and very strict on me. I worked so hard to protect myself being falling into water. When first time as teenager, could follow my young kids which I am much older than them like about couple younger. When they become teenagers then that when I started. One of my close friends asked me to sneak to the movie house. I felt guilty because of my mother. I decided to follow them and sneak into movie. Next hours, mother saw us walk out of movie and fussed at me front of my friends. That was so scary. My mother does not understand why I took that decision.
Then become matured teenager, I knew the right and wrong decision but still act like teenagers because we think we are adult and boss all we wanted. One night, I had my boyfriend to sneak out to the park. My mother drove by and saw us walking to the park as I watched the car that she braked middle of the street and stopped the car. I never forget what my mother did to us front of people at the park. I was so embarrassed and told him I am sorry. He leaves and I was pulled in the car by my own mother. I do not know what to say because she was so pissed off. She does not understand why I took him out to the park. She told me GROUND me a week without car or phone with boyfriend! I was like FUCK! I can see him at school. His mother does not GROUND him but forced him to do the courses. I wish I can do that. My mother is different.
I chatted with few friends who was teenagers with me. Their stories are different. No Punish is good because it disciplines them well without fuss at them or pissed off. If punish can be bad because of their discipline bad or can be abused by vocal, etc. If ground, can be good or bad like his mother made him do the courses and I was told not drive car and can’t use the phone. No ground then you are SPOILED! LOL! Yeah, one I know is spoiled girl. I love her anyway!
I had learned from my aunt’s teen years and my teen years. I had saw my aunt as teenager and I try made myself not like hers but tempt with my friends. I can understand that because of my aunt. I am glad that I had good parents that try to teach me the right ways instead of wrong. Everyone has mistaken in their life so no one perfect. Teenagers are hard but growing up into better opportunities. Learning from parents or family experiences in their years to our next family generations. Some would go away or would stay together. That depends on their experiences in their life.
Correction on my mother is not bad mother. She is good mother and my best friend. She tries to teach me right ways which I ignore during the teen years. Don’t forget she is ARMY BRAT!
Love ya! ~ DW
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